Pleasing your boss: Is it wrong?

" Well, Sir, here is your favorite book. I saw it in a book store last night. I remembered that you like the author. Hope you like it"

" Sir, I invite you to come to our parents gold marriage anniversary. You are a special person to our family. We are honored if you would like to come"

" Sir, your wife is so beautiful, kind, and perfect. You are lucky to have her. No wonder if you loves her very much. please say my best regard to her"

" Mam, you look so beautiful in a pink blouse"

Statements above might be heard in lunch break conversation between a boss and his/her employees. Each statement seems to be ordinary sentence when it is said to a friend in the same level. But it sounds strange and tendentious when said to a boss although it is useful for maintaining a friendship between boss and employees. However, of course, those sentences are not only said by an employee to the boss, but also by a boss to his/her employee. It won't be a problem at all, actually. the praising sentence is needed by everyone to support his confidence as long as it is said sincerely, honestly and not manipulative. If good, say good but if bad, say bad. more than those are coming from evil. this is a principle that should be remembered when we want to praise someone.

Most of praising statements are useful to others. but some are harmful. not only for individual, but also, worse, for organization in a long term. How can it bring a harmful condition? of course, when you praise your boss just to make him pleased, then you put your boss in a difficult situation to decide something over you. extremely, when you've done something unprofitable for your organization.

In Surabaya, Indonesia, it is commonly found. is it poor, isn't it? as an Indonesian, we learn to treat well the others, especially to the person who has higher position than us, no matter in house or workplace. every where. but it's such a trap, isn't it? sometimes, it is hard to limit the degree we treat others. We try to do the best, but we exaggerate ourselves in treating them. On the other side, if we try to reduce the criteria 'how far should I treat her?' we can be extremely placed in contra attitude. we are called, impolite, unfriendly, cool and etc. does it hurt?

So, what are the solutions?

1. Put yourself in your right proportion when you are in workplace. If you are an administration officer, just do your tasks as an administration officer. do not try to take other's tasks just to make his boss pleased. Believe me, your friends will become your enemies then.
2. If you want to praise your boss or supervisor, you can do one of these two ways: personally or formally. personally means that you send him an email or card to express your praise, of course with logic reason, such as your boss' promotion, your boss' success in gaining the highest sales volume. not for the private reason such as, your boss' new tie. It just can be used when both of you know each other well. The example fro private reason can be said in a lunch break conversation among groups.
3. Do not try to manipulate your boss by your praising statement, it means, you have to be sincere.
   

Pleasing your boss: is it wrong?

The answer can be 'yes' or 'no' according to your heart. If you are honest to praise other, it is right. but if your heart is not honest enough, then it is wrong.

Check your heart before praising to please your boss. If you have hidden 'sinful' motivation, you have to shut up your mouth. It's better to say nothing than saying something that causes damage. Believe me, your boss will prefer to hear no comment from you, than many comments such an 'empty tin'.

How about you?

types of employees based on reason to do the task

There are so many kinds of employees based on the reason of why they do his tasks. That I've ever met during I was working in some work places. This is such a real and direct investigation in work places in Indonesia.
1. Employee that does something because he knows his job-description well
This kind of employee is the best type and profitable for the organization. He seems to improve and learn more about everything related to his tasks. The deadline of task submission can be fulfilled well and perfectly. He does the tasks fast and never put until tomorrow what he can do today. He does the tasks well not only because he is competent in that field but also his eagerness to learn. He sincerely works without any 'intimidation' from either his circumstances or himself. He's really a good 'guy' for organization as it will need him for accidental cases, because he is usually strong in character, discipline and diligent. The most important indicator is that he has never pursue for position in his organization, as the reason of knowing job-description well.

2. Employee that does something because he wants to please his boss
It is the type that has an extreme differences than the first type. This 'guy' doesn't have a good attitude in working. Although sometimes he seems to work hard, it's not because he knows well about his tasks, but rather to please his boss. when the boss is not there, he will decrease his powerful activities as before (when the boss is coming). It can be detected that he always treats his boss very well, even exaggerates. Be careful, sometimes, he has hidden motivation as pursuing for a position, that may be given by his pleased boss. And, usually, this guy is not qualified enough, but having a desire to get something without doing anything. Worse, for gaining his dream, he will kick you out if he thinks you are his rival. Shortly, nothing is wrong to do for his dream coming true.

although, the both types are based on real investigation and experience in many workplace in Surabaya, Indonesia but this writing challenges you to prove it.

Now, evaluate yourself honestly. which is your type?

INTRODUCTION

living without vision is such a ship without lighthouse in the middle of the sea.

vision:
it can be something seen in a dream, a thought
it can be such as a concept, or object formed by the imagination
it can be the act or power of seeing